Blog bullying?


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If you have a blog, you most likely also have a Twitter account. Even if you don’t have a blog, you most likely have a Twitter account. Tweeting is the new mini (micro) blogging. It’s quick, it’s easy, it’s painless. ….Or is it?

Book bloggers follow a whole mess of people, ranging from publishers to authors to fellow bloggers. This, in turn, creates a mixture of formality and informality. And, unfortunately, Twitter doesn’t quite run like Facebook. People will see what you tweet. But you all know this, don’t you? Given some past situations regarding bloggers and authors, we all know the risks of mixing business with pleasure, and vice versa. But what about with other bloggers? How do you handle that? What if someone badmouths you? What if someone steals your content? What if you’re ignored?

Don’t worry. It happens to the best of us. (You know, if any one group of bloggers can be considered the “best.”)

Negative tweets about blogging usually stem from seeing newly created or poorly designed blogs. And while your first reaction might be something along the lines of, Oh my God why would ANYONE use that font?! or I can’t see a damn thing on this crazy background, that’s probably not what you should be tweeting. After all, new bloggers have feelings, too. It’s better to be helpful than insulting.

Of course, other negative tweets arise from different situations.

The problem with these negative tweets is that they add up. Maybe not even literally. Depending on the severity of the tweet, one alone could make someone turn away from blogging. I’ve seen it happen, and it’s a shame. This community has lost some really great people.  Sure, there are always new people to be found, but it’s not the act of people turning away from blogging that’s the problem. It’s when they turn away from blogging as a result of poor Tweeting (or negative feedback).

I won’t get into specifics, but our community had a really bad bashing case on its hands with the fallout of a certain acclaimed blogger. Whether you searched the name of the blogger or a related hashtag, there were insults everywhere. And whether that blogger deserved it or not (everyone’s opinion differs), it created one big snowball effect and resulted in bloggers going against one another. Some couldn’t take the drama, so they split and hightailed it out of the community for good.

And after seeing a negative Tweet regarding my own site tonight, I had to wonder: Is this what blogging is coming to? Is this what our community is coming to? I’d like to think not. I’d like to think that as much as we get shaken up, we just as easily brush it off. But I do know that, having been blogging for almost two years now, I notice more negativity now than I did when I started.

But I have faith in this community and all its members. So remember to think before you Tweet! We all work hard. Let’s focus on that instead.

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17 Responses to “Blog bullying?”

  1. Marie says:

    When I first started blogging (also two years ago) there weren’t a lot of book bloggers then but it seems like within the last two years there has been a big increase and it’s always nice to make friends who have a similar interest as you (especially when it’s something that doesn’t get a lot of attention, like reading). But I think for a lot of them the whole blogging/social networking thing is new to them and expressing yourself in a way where people can see/hear you is exciting. But I think sometimes they get carried away.

    I always think of Twitter as a casual place. To share news, information and to chit chat. But I think the use of hashtags can be both very helpful but also very harmful too.

    • Alissa says:

      I agree. And I think Twitter, or any other social media, is new in the sense that now you’re representing both yourself and your blog/site.

  2. I’ve seen tweets saying not so nice things about me. I don’t think those people even realized I could see their tweets, either.

    I’ve notice an increase in negativity, too, and I don’t like it. I know that everyone has their own thoughts and opinions about the blogosphere, and they’re not always positive. I mean, do I have complaints and rants and negative thoughts? HECK YES! Do I post them publicly? NO. I rant to someone in an email, get it out, then move on.

    More than anything, we just need to move on. Focus on the positives and let the go. The negativity takes us nowhere but down.

    • Alissa says:

      Yes, yes and more yes. I agree. Problem is it’s easier for some to complain than not to.

      I’ll keep hoping for the best! “Move on” should be our mantra.

  3. Isalys says:

    I don’t think I’ve ever actually said anything outright negative on Twitter because I do try to live by the Golden Rule. I did put in my two cents during the situation you referred to, but it wasn’t so much hateful as it was actual.

    I didn’t get my own Twitter account until a couple of years after I started blogging so I can only comment on what I’ve noticed recently and I have to agree, people have gotten much harsher. Is it because some have forgotten what it’s like to be the little guy or the new kid on the block? Perhaps…but it needs to end.

    We’re a COMMUNITY…not rival schools that need to reduce to petty jabs or arguments.

    • Alissa says:

      I think there’s a difference between putting in your two cents, and being downright negative. I know I put in my two cents a lot of the time, but respectfully (or so I hope!).

      Love your community line!

  4. It’s hard to maintain positivity in an atmosphere of negativity. To be honest, I feel those people make their own beds. If someone continues to tweet negative or just plain mean comments, believe me it’s noticed.

    • Alissa says:

      Thankfully. I don’t think we’re at the point (yet) where we’re entirely surrounded by negativity. I hope it doesn’t get further out of hand.

  5. We Heart YA says:

    A negative tweet regarding your site?? Honestly we find that hard to imagine…


    We’re sorry to hear that happened, but we love that it brought about such a wonderful response post. You’ve got the right attitude about all of this and we hope it catches on!

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  7. Anne says:

    I really must get better at commenting on posts when I see them. I seriously thought I’d already commented!

    I agree with you – we all need to be very careful about what we say online. And we all need to be aware that EVERYONE can see it. I think it’s too bad that some people feel they need to be so negative in public, and I personally don’t understand why people are so mean about it. We’re not a clique, we’re not exclusive – the point should be to encourage each other! Heck, I bet a lot of us were the ones who were EXCLUDED at school or whatever (I know reading wasn’t cool where *I* went to school!) Why on earth would we want to bring that to the community here.

    I know better than to feed the trolls, so I try my best to just ignore it. But honestly? I, for one, will do my best to NEVER say a bad thing in public or just on the internet in general. I don’t want to be the one who makes someone quit blogging forever.

    • Alissa says:

      Any time I’ve addressed one of the negative comments, I’ve attempted to do so rationally. But lately I’ve taken to ignoring them altogether. It’s just not worth it.

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